We are hearing a lot about “bullying” in the news lately. As you can see from this photo, there is a type of bullying, that doesn’t seem to get addressed. It is something short of physical abuse, but oh, so damaging to children. It is a parent who bullies their child into submission: a parent who threatens, yells, withholds love–refuses to look at them, makes fun of and humiliates their child, for the parent’s own selfish gain. It is a parent who puts their wants, wishes, feelings and desires, above what is best for their children. This type of bullying has far reaching effects. It causes permanent damage.

Parents who quickly quote scriptures which command children to ‘obey their parents’; fail to read the passages where God cautions them on putting too much on the little ones. Ephesians 6:4 ” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.” Col.3:21 “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.”  This goes for Mothers as well.

God gave children to parents, because they need guidence. They do not already know how to behave—it is our job to teach them! And as the old saying goes, 95% of what children learn is “caught” not taught. They will follow our examples instead of our lectures!

What can you do about it? Well, make sure you are not a bully. And when you see a bully, don’t condone or contribute to their behavior. Do not enable them, by saying nothing. For evil to continue the righteous must be silent.

Don’t be silent.